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Fear is the other four letter word

1/20/2017

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Being an executive coach can be a humbling process at times. Particularly when a client really begins to open up and let you into their world. It becomes a connecting, warts-and-all look at the life and inner workings of a leader. These conversations of course come from a foundation of great trust, but delving into this is necessary. Most often what holds a leader back from greatness, overcoming challenges and breaking through barriers is fear. The other four letter word. Fear of failing, fear of being rejected, fear of success, fear of the judgements of others. Insight, confidence and taking action are the antidotes to fear from my experience with leaders.
​I often connect with coaching clients on the topic of confidence in the workplace. Now, these aren’t all 20 something-fresh-to–leadership types, but experienced leaders in their 30s, 40s and 50s. The thing they have in common is they just don’t see the value that they bring to their team or organisation. They don’t back themselves to voice their opinion and vision. Some leaders can wonder why others would even listen to them, or have a fear that their apparent lack of skill with be 'found out' by their peers. This type of thinking leads to stalled career progression, excessive nervousness in presentations, and missed opportunities meetings and working groups. 

Here are some tips on overcoming fear and  learning to back yourself at work:
  • Recognise that it’s a ‘thing’, and that you can change it. This article from the Harvard Business Review might be of interest to learn more. 
  • There’s no use giving in and thinking that you can’t do anything about it, you just need to learn some techniques to increase your self-confidence and develop some strategies to make this translate into the workplace.
  • Think about what you do and what you’ve achieved. Even focussing on the past 12 months, write down 3 – 4 key things that you’re proud of. Seeing them on paper will make them more ‘real’.
  • If you’re struggling to see the value in what you do, ask someone you trust at work, who knows you well. What do they think are your strengths? Try not to dismiss their comments. Look for the truth in what they tell you.
  • Think about someone you know who is confident. Reflect on what approach they take and how you could start to incorporate this into your daily work.
  • Consider some projects or situations that you could take ownership of that would provide some mild challenge in this area - something that will push you a little beyond what you find comfortable. If you challenge yourself too much, it’s likely to result in you retreating altogether, but on-the-job stretch opportunities are a great way to slowly build your confidence.
  • Speak with a coach or mentor, even if it’s informally, to prepare for any challenging situations and then debrief afterward. Put any strategy that works straight into your ‘toolkit’ for next time and go back to the drawing board on the things that didn’t go to plan.
If making presentations, or speaking up in meetings results in really distracting or negative self-talk e.g. “why did you say that?”, “why would anyone be interested in what I have to say?”, you need to develop your capacity to remain ‘in the moment’. This ensures you are not focussing on the future or past, but on the present and how you can best engage with the situation and individuals.

…Pay attention to what's around you right now, instead of focusing on the past (which you can't change), or the future (which you can't fully predict).

One easy way to do this during a meeting or presentation is to reduce ‘noise’ and pre-planning thoughts (ie thinking about what you’ll do/say next); this can be done by taking brief notes on your thoughts to remove them from your mind and reduce any anxiety that you might forget to raise a topic or a particular thought/solution. That way, you can stay focussed on the discussion at hand.

If you let fear drive you and don't back yourself at work, it’s very unlikely that someone will do it for you. Everyone makes a valuable contribution in some way at work - just dig deep to see what the value is that you bring to your team and the organisation and be sure of your strengths and achievements. Now actually believe it…
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    ​Therese Lardner is a Leadership and Engagement Coach with a passion for helping individuals, teams and businesses thrive.

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